We’ll all go through it at least a few times during our life…some major life change. This could be becoming parents, changing careers, kids going off to college, moving and getting married – just to name a few. What happens during this time of transition is we’re mourning or clinging to an old familiar identity while trying to navigate what’s next. Sound familiar?!?
For example, let’s say you’ve had the same job or same business for many years and now for whatever reason you don’t. You were used to the routine, the morning coffee, the prestigious title, the meetings, the people you communicated with on a daily basis. How do you stop doing something you’ve done for many years? How do you let go of that version of yourself to make room for the next?
Or how about when you became a parent, you took on a new identity and filled your time with homework, laundry, driving around to playdates and sporting events, cooking dinners and teaching life lessons like how to speak, tie shoes, potty training, reading, writing, right from wrong, values and so much more! It became your primary role even when you were still working! It’s a lot and usually heavy duty for at least 18 -20 years!
It’s easy to get caught up with everything that parenthood brings – but in the process, some of us may lose ourselves. Each year we seem to step away from the person we were before kids entered our lives, to now making it all about them.
I know for me when my girls were younger, I was often referred to as “Olivia’s mom or Ruby’s mom” by their friends, teachers and even other parents. For many years I answered to that but then it hit me – no – I’m Stacey!!! I’m MORE than a mom – there are many parts to me as there are to you but those parts often get put off to the side or even completely forgotten.
What happens when your kids are off to school or onto the next chapter of their lives? What are you left with? An identity you may still holding onto and a new one that’s eager to be created.
This can be a huge adjustment!
You’re no longer needed as much. One of our fundamental human desires is the need to be needed – to feel like we’re making a difference in someone else’s life. Those years go by so quickly (even when it feels like they don’t!) It could seem like just yesterday you were changing diapers and now they’re asking for the keys to your car! How did that happen?!?
You may be left feeling empty and lonely – (or even excited and guilty)– not only with your home and no one to yell at to pick up their dirty laundry (because there is none) but with what to do with all of your newfound free time.
You may be wondering…
Where do I go from here?
What do I do with all of this free time?
What’s next for me?
This is what I’m here to help you with! You deserve to create an amazing next chapter, whatever that looks like. It’ll be different for everyone but tapping into what YOUR true desires are is key!
I’m hosting a new free workshop called How To Figure Out What’s Next For You for anyone going through a major life change or feels like they NEED a change! . If that’s you I invite you to join!
Tuesday March 8th, 7PM EST
Online via Zoom – secure your spot now!
Replay available for a limited time
During this LIVE INTERACTIVE workshop I’ll provide you with thought provoking journaling prompts to help you get clarity on what’s next for you. We’ll do some journaling on the spot then talk about what came up for you. By the end of the workshop you’ll start to get a sense of clarity!!!
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